Dear Brahmin in Boston,
Update: never heard back from Hot trainer. :( Maybe I'll drunk text him when I'm out in Fanuiel Hall tomorrow.
-HLMN
So here's round two for you:
Name: Nerdy guy
How it's going: This guy has some real potential. We went out on our first date to this really nice French restaurant in Coolidge Corner. He wined and dined me, total gentleman. We may or may not have hooked up that night. Adorable blue eyes and dimples. I'm completely smitten with him. Downfall: we both work crazy hours. Me with my nutty jobs and he works for an IT start up company which means early mornings and late nights. So we haven't really been on any other dates. It's more like I go over we watch a movie and fall asleep. But right away I told him, I am not a booty call. I refuse to be treated as one and he totally respected that. I even tested it when the first time he called me to just cuddle and watch a movie, we did not mess around at all. We kissed a few times then just went to sleep. Sometimes I don't know if this guy is real or not but I'm keeping him around.
Name: English Major
How it's going: FINALLY someone that I can be totally nerdy with and talk about books. I know I have a huge obsession. But HELLO, I was an English major too and reading has been my obsession since I was little. I mean I taught myself to read. Oh right, you want to hear about the guy. Well, that's how our convo started, books. Then we went out on a date and seriously my face hurt from laughing so much with him. Cute, super funny and we just clicked instantly. We can pick on each other and dish it out. Shoot, I even wore my ducky rain boots on our first date and splashed through puddles when we walked to find a bar and he thought it was hilarious and liked me enough to take me out again. We had a good time again, this time he kissed me. We had plans to hang out last weekend, but I ended up having to cancel because the roads were horrible in the snow and I prefer not to die no matter how much I like a guy. Sadly, I haven't really heard from him since. He sent me a text the other day apologizing for being MIA, just everything is crazy right now. But I personally think that he's just not that interested maybe. Major sad face there because I had a lot of fun with him.
Name: Mafia Man
How it's going: So nothing too exciting here. He lives in the North end, we had drinks, talked, got dinner and coffee and he drove me home because he kept me out past when the T runs. He was nice and sweet. HOT bod. But I just felt like I couldn't be my wild crazy self around him. We went out to dinner again near me, he stayed the night and we've talked since but I'm not actively pursuing him just because I feel like I have to rein myself back and I don't want to be with someone like that. I want someone that will run wild and crazy with me.
AND last but not least (I still am shocked by this one)
Name: HS guy
How it's going: This is a long story. So about a month ago while browsing matches on OKC I run into a guy I went to high school with, who also happens to be my very good friends cousin, who also happens to live in Boston. I freaked, I didn't click on his profile or anything. Called his cousin and was like OMG you will not believe who I just found. I didn't want him to find me which is why I didn't click on his (because you can see who has been checking you out). Well about two weeks ago I get a message from him saying "HEY are you HLMN from high school?" OH HEYYY yep that's me. I'm flipping out because I was SUCH a loser in high school and he was one of the hot popular guys. So here I am like fuck, he's found me what do I do. I casually respond. We make plans to meet up. I'm scared shitless because I've known him since 7th grade, but haven't seen him since we graduated and I'm a completely different person. I'm FUN (and he even concurred). So I go to his place. FUCKING SHOCKED when I run into his roommate whom I also went to high school with. I just chug a couple glasses of wine so I can chill the fuck out. We sit, catch up and talk and he's actually a great guy. We laugh and hit up some bars. I obviously stay the night because I'm toasted. I don't know what to expect from him because he's always been kinda a player (or was). But he texts me two days later saying he had a good time, then I hear from him again and we hang out Tuesday night. This time no roommate around so I'm more relaxed and seriously, we just had a good time. He's a funny guy and I can completely be me around him. The more drinks we have the more we talk about our past hook ups etc. I tell him about living with Class 5 clinger. He tells me about never having a gf, but how now that he has a big boy job (literally) he seems ready. The only thing that worries me about him is that he knows I'm a relationship person and I know he never has been. So my question is, where could this possibly go? I guess I just need to wait and find out.
1/27/2012
1/09/2012
SHE'S just not that into you
Okay, I need to put a quick little rant in here instead of a new list of guys because of something that happened this weekend.
Friday night, my friend L and I dressed up and hit the town to have a girls night out. She invited a guy that she had been talking to on OKcupid to meet up with us, which was fine because he brought friends along with him, one girl and one guy and they were a lot of fun. The two of them chatted it up all night and they had fun. I drank a lot (but no BO's!! yay!!! I was in control!!!) and danced around. Made friends with his friends. Made friends with the cute guy from Finland in an doubly nerdy/cute green cardigan. I just like to make friends. I think that for the most part I'm generally a nice person. However, if you're a guy this does NOT mean I am flirting. Just because I'm not interested in you does not mean I'm going to snub you and not talk to you all night, especially if we're in a small group of people. I'm going to be friendly and get to know you as a person.
Well, at the end of the night we were leaving and L's man and his friends were straggling in the bar. I walked out because we had to catch a cab. Apparently, I am really good at getting cabs and within 2 seconds I had one. L was trying to wait and say by to her new man, but the cabbie was getting pissed and about to leave. So we jumped in the cab and went on our way. He was a little upset that they didn't get to say good bye.
But what REALLY bothered me was that he thought I was being a bitch because I ran away so fast. He thought I was trying to ditch his friend who I had been hanging out with all night (along with the girl too, but apparently that isn't an important detail...) He was like why did she flirt with him all night if she wasn't interested. I was NOT flirting. Also, at one point he had at one point told me he was V, and I jokingly told him we would find him some ass that night and L's man said to her that I was being mean because he was just being honest with me. Still, I was just being funny and talking and making conversation and we were drunk. None of this adds up to flirting nor does it mean that I was INTERESTED. God, why can't a girl just be nice to people without it being misconstrued as it being flirting and that I want them in my pants?? SERIOUSLY. I don't WANT to be a bitch. I like making friends. But maybe guys just have egos that are too big to realize that.
Friday night, my friend L and I dressed up and hit the town to have a girls night out. She invited a guy that she had been talking to on OKcupid to meet up with us, which was fine because he brought friends along with him, one girl and one guy and they were a lot of fun. The two of them chatted it up all night and they had fun. I drank a lot (but no BO's!! yay!!! I was in control!!!) and danced around. Made friends with his friends. Made friends with the cute guy from Finland in an doubly nerdy/cute green cardigan. I just like to make friends. I think that for the most part I'm generally a nice person. However, if you're a guy this does NOT mean I am flirting. Just because I'm not interested in you does not mean I'm going to snub you and not talk to you all night, especially if we're in a small group of people. I'm going to be friendly and get to know you as a person.
Well, at the end of the night we were leaving and L's man and his friends were straggling in the bar. I walked out because we had to catch a cab. Apparently, I am really good at getting cabs and within 2 seconds I had one. L was trying to wait and say by to her new man, but the cabbie was getting pissed and about to leave. So we jumped in the cab and went on our way. He was a little upset that they didn't get to say good bye.
But what REALLY bothered me was that he thought I was being a bitch because I ran away so fast. He thought I was trying to ditch his friend who I had been hanging out with all night (along with the girl too, but apparently that isn't an important detail...) He was like why did she flirt with him all night if she wasn't interested. I was NOT flirting. Also, at one point he had at one point told me he was V, and I jokingly told him we would find him some ass that night and L's man said to her that I was being mean because he was just being honest with me. Still, I was just being funny and talking and making conversation and we were drunk. None of this adds up to flirting nor does it mean that I was INTERESTED. God, why can't a girl just be nice to people without it being misconstrued as it being flirting and that I want them in my pants?? SERIOUSLY. I don't WANT to be a bitch. I like making friends. But maybe guys just have egos that are too big to realize that.
1/08/2012
Round One
Sorry for the lack of posts lately, the new year is proving to be crazy busy!! So for this round, after my disaster with
Name: Skater Boy
The scoop: Online dating has gone to a new level with its smart phone apps and that's how I came across skater boy. The OKcupid app has gps tracking so it finds matches in your area that you can meet instantly (I guess it's really good for those just looking to hook up). But that's how Skater Boy found me. I checked out his profile and he was cute artsy and has an adorable dog (that I pretty much just want to break into his house and steal). Things started off great, we hung out a couple afternoons and grabbed lunch, he saved me from crazy drunk guys at the bar and drove me home in the morning. We cuddled and hooked up. Had drinks. Just had some chill fun. But then he turned into a huge flake. We would make plans and he would never get back to me. This happened actually just last week. We texted about getting together sometime during the week, he asked what I had in mind, I asked if he wanted to see a movie. Nothing. Still never heard from that fucker. I don't like flaky people anyways.
Name: Hot Trainer
The scoop: I actually thought this one had promise. There was definitely a physical attraction. See first date: practically jumped on each other at the bar. We knew the same people because of training and the best part was even though he was a big meaty guy, he went to a music school and had his appreciation for the arts. I thought he was a real winner when he asked to hang out one Sunday and I was going to the Nutcracker with some people from the dance studio. I had an extra ticket so I offered it to him, or offered meeting up afterwards for dinner. He took the ticket! I was fully impressed and he was so nice to my crazy friends at dinner and they all hit if off. Sadly, I haven't seen or heard from him since then. He went away the next weekend, the weekend after that was Christmas and then New Years. I was the one to always initiate the hey what are you doing this weekend. So I figure I'd wait to see if he was still interested. Guess not. Major sad face because he was SUPER hot. At least I can give myself a pat on the back for that one.
Name: Filipino Guy
The scoop: So I came across a Filipino guy and I figured I would give the motherland a shot. I have NEVER dated an Asian guy in my life and this one was decent looking and the same kind of Asian as me!! Perfectttt. We went on FIVE dates, yes count them, FIVE. And I barely got more than a peck on the lips. HOW DOES THAT HAPPEN??? He was in my apartment ALONE until like 1am one night and NOTHING. Either he moves super slow, or he's gay. Seriously, after the last date when he didn't kiss me at all I decided it was over. I can handle moving slow, but he was moving no where.
Name: Aussie
The scoop: What self respecting girl wouldn't take up the chance to go out on a date with a tall sexy man with gorgeous blue eyes and a HOT accent?!!! Ok, like most girls I have a HUGE fetish for accents. My ears literally perk up when I catch those sexy Irish, British or Aussie tones, especially when it's from a sexy sexy man. I just want control myself. We literally spent a whole weekend together, the first date was perfect. Dinner, brought me to the Top of the Hub (which was a bit romantic for a first date but I'm such a sucker for that stuff) and then the next day we went to a museum and had a bottle of wine at his place and of course hooked up. To top it off he was just the right amount of nerdy. Sadly, I texted him last week to hang out and he decides he has baggage and is still in love with his ex. God, even the good ones are damaged. The freak part of it is, we're going to the movies tonight together because I told him it's okay, we can just be friends (or maybe I can just at least lust over his sexy accent). I'll let you know how that one goes.
None of these guys were horrible. No girlfriends, no asshole-ish ways. They just weren't the right ones. It gives me hope for Boston guys.
Name: Skater Boy
The scoop: Online dating has gone to a new level with its smart phone apps and that's how I came across skater boy. The OKcupid app has gps tracking so it finds matches in your area that you can meet instantly (I guess it's really good for those just looking to hook up). But that's how Skater Boy found me. I checked out his profile and he was cute artsy and has an adorable dog (that I pretty much just want to break into his house and steal). Things started off great, we hung out a couple afternoons and grabbed lunch, he saved me from crazy drunk guys at the bar and drove me home in the morning. We cuddled and hooked up. Had drinks. Just had some chill fun. But then he turned into a huge flake. We would make plans and he would never get back to me. This happened actually just last week. We texted about getting together sometime during the week, he asked what I had in mind, I asked if he wanted to see a movie. Nothing. Still never heard from that fucker. I don't like flaky people anyways.
Name: Hot Trainer
The scoop: I actually thought this one had promise. There was definitely a physical attraction. See first date: practically jumped on each other at the bar. We knew the same people because of training and the best part was even though he was a big meaty guy, he went to a music school and had his appreciation for the arts. I thought he was a real winner when he asked to hang out one Sunday and I was going to the Nutcracker with some people from the dance studio. I had an extra ticket so I offered it to him, or offered meeting up afterwards for dinner. He took the ticket! I was fully impressed and he was so nice to my crazy friends at dinner and they all hit if off. Sadly, I haven't seen or heard from him since then. He went away the next weekend, the weekend after that was Christmas and then New Years. I was the one to always initiate the hey what are you doing this weekend. So I figure I'd wait to see if he was still interested. Guess not. Major sad face because he was SUPER hot. At least I can give myself a pat on the back for that one.
Name: Filipino Guy
The scoop: So I came across a Filipino guy and I figured I would give the motherland a shot. I have NEVER dated an Asian guy in my life and this one was decent looking and the same kind of Asian as me!! Perfectttt. We went on FIVE dates, yes count them, FIVE. And I barely got more than a peck on the lips. HOW DOES THAT HAPPEN??? He was in my apartment ALONE until like 1am one night and NOTHING. Either he moves super slow, or he's gay. Seriously, after the last date when he didn't kiss me at all I decided it was over. I can handle moving slow, but he was moving no where.
Name: Aussie
The scoop: What self respecting girl wouldn't take up the chance to go out on a date with a tall sexy man with gorgeous blue eyes and a HOT accent?!!! Ok, like most girls I have a HUGE fetish for accents. My ears literally perk up when I catch those sexy Irish, British or Aussie tones, especially when it's from a sexy sexy man. I just want control myself. We literally spent a whole weekend together, the first date was perfect. Dinner, brought me to the Top of the Hub (which was a bit romantic for a first date but I'm such a sucker for that stuff) and then the next day we went to a museum and had a bottle of wine at his place and of course hooked up. To top it off he was just the right amount of nerdy. Sadly, I texted him last week to hang out and he decides he has baggage and is still in love with his ex. God, even the good ones are damaged. The freak part of it is, we're going to the movies tonight together because I told him it's okay, we can just be friends (or maybe I can just at least lust over his sexy accent). I'll let you know how that one goes.
None of these guys were horrible. No girlfriends, no asshole-ish ways. They just weren't the right ones. It gives me hope for Boston guys.
12/30/2011
Don't be bitter, be better 2011
So this year is almost over and I still haven't finished writing about this year's adventures. But I figured I'd sum it up like I did last years.
2011
Started it off with a bang. Or a black out, which ever you prefer. Met WI guy had an amazing time realized me life is fucked up. Moved to CT, got a job (made some awesome friends) and a boyfriend. Hated said job and long distance with said boyfriend, made plans to move to Boston. Moved to Boston, said boyfriend dumps me. Join online dating site, go boy crazy in Boston. Join a dance studio, go crazy in Boston on dance. Become a trainer, find my calling in life.
I may still be single but for the first time in a long time I'm perfectly content with that. Dating is fun for now, and if I meet the right person, that would be fantastic. But I now know there's so much more to life. The people I have met through dance are probably the best, most inspirational people I have ever met. Meeting them has helped me put all my past nastiness behind me and learn how to embrace my life as it is. I don't need a boyfriend (though it would be nice) I just need people that actually care. In the past most of my friends have been replaceable. You can always find a new partner in crime, a new clique to join, a new study buddy, work out friend. But you can't replace people that have sincerely helped bring out the best in you and never seek to bring you down.
2011
Started it off with a bang. Or a black out, which ever you prefer. Met WI guy had an amazing time realized me life is fucked up. Moved to CT, got a job (made some awesome friends) and a boyfriend. Hated said job and long distance with said boyfriend, made plans to move to Boston. Moved to Boston, said boyfriend dumps me. Join online dating site, go boy crazy in Boston. Join a dance studio, go crazy in Boston on dance. Become a trainer, find my calling in life.
I may still be single but for the first time in a long time I'm perfectly content with that. Dating is fun for now, and if I meet the right person, that would be fantastic. But I now know there's so much more to life. The people I have met through dance are probably the best, most inspirational people I have ever met. Meeting them has helped me put all my past nastiness behind me and learn how to embrace my life as it is. I don't need a boyfriend (though it would be nice) I just need people that actually care. In the past most of my friends have been replaceable. You can always find a new partner in crime, a new clique to join, a new study buddy, work out friend. But you can't replace people that have sincerely helped bring out the best in you and never seek to bring you down.
12/29/2011
Nerds, Italians and Greeks
Name: MIT Guy
Our story: Let me start with this- I love nerds and geeky guys. Think Sheldon from Big Bang Theory and Dr. Spencer Reid from Criminal Minds. There is a soft spot in my heart for them and I have no idea why. So I joined POF (BIG mistake ladies- STAY AWAY). I got a message from MIT guy and we proceeded to text and message all the time. Finally, decided to meet and have dinner. We really hit it off until I found out he had a GF. Great. Here we go again. Except this time I stuck to my NYE resolution and and DID NOT hook with him. We decided to be friends since he just moved here too. But of course our conversations start to cross the friend line. He decided he had to chose between me and his GF. I personally couldn't understand why. But finally he broke up with his GF and we hooked. Then a week later the poor boy got confused and thought maybe he had made the wrong decision (she emailed him and told him she wanted the cat back...boys are weird). I was upset and tried to understand why he would go back to a weird relationship (see: he hates her friends, she makes him sing little bunny foo foo to help her sleep and when he went home for labor day, she left for the weekend to go to the beach). I should have just left it there. But then he came back and was like no, I want to try this with you. So we did, made plans for my birthday to go out and have fun etc. But I got this nasty feeling (and with the help of FB stalking) that he wanted his ex back. So finally after he canceled plans on me for the second time, I just was like you know what I'm done. After doing some FB stalking recently (I love FB if you haven't noticed, especially with the new live feed and timeline...makes stalking SO much fun!) I discovered they are back together. I hope he has fun for the rest of his life having a grown child instead of a gf. Jerk.
Name: Italian Stallion
The Story: This guy, oh man, he takes the cake. Such a winner (I sincerely hope you picked up on my sarcasm there). So I meet this guy online and he comes out while I'm having drinks with a girl I went to college with. I'm nervous and start pounding drinks (see: Black out city). Make a complete fool of myself and bring him home. We hook (no banging as I am BO). SOME how this guy likes the craziness and we see each other a lot for about 2 weeks. He's nuts and I fall for every single word. Sometimes I hate being a girl because I really do fall for all the cheesy shit guys will spit out because they know we want to hear it (after this experience though I DON'T believe it anymore). Then my mom comes to visit and we can't see each other that weekend. Fine, you know we gotta do our own thing too. So I'm at a bar/restaurant with my mom and we're having drinks and dessert while we catch up. The bar is filling up and there's a guy behind her trying to order drinks. Well, I instinctively turn to look at him and discover is none other than my Italian Stallion! We have an awkward confrontation (fine), and he tells me he's out with coworkers and his gonna go back and hang with them (ok). Then I watch him leave...not with coworkers though but with another chic. So when I confront him about it he blocks me on FB and never answers me again. I'm kinda convinced that she is his GF because after stalking his pics his "ex gf" looked a lot like this chic he was leaving with. Liar liar pants on fire!!!
Name: Greek Lawyer
Our story: After my bad encounter with Italian Stallion I decided to make one last attempt on POF and I meet this very nice, put together Greek Lawyer. He's cute and nice, smart, has a good job, polite. You know the type that you would bring home to meet the parents. SEE: BORINGGGGG. That is just not my type. But I couldn't help but at least give it a chance...you know something different than the typical asshole I date? We go out on two more dates and the third one he tries to make out with me in the middle of a bar. I just COULD NOT do it. I will make out, but it can't be in the middle of the bar with everyone staring and on like a Wednesday night when no one is drunk. And to top it off it was like kissing a dead fish. My stomach just turned while recalling this incident. I'm sorry, I love making out. I cannot be with a guy that can't kiss. It's just too horrible. We part that night and he tries to set up another date. Instead of my typical ignore until the get the hint move, I'm nice since he's so nice and tell him I'm just not ready to see anyone yet. He tells me to give him a call when I am ready. I never will be ready to date a dead fish!!!
Our story: Let me start with this- I love nerds and geeky guys. Think Sheldon from Big Bang Theory and Dr. Spencer Reid from Criminal Minds. There is a soft spot in my heart for them and I have no idea why. So I joined POF (BIG mistake ladies- STAY AWAY). I got a message from MIT guy and we proceeded to text and message all the time. Finally, decided to meet and have dinner. We really hit it off until I found out he had a GF. Great. Here we go again. Except this time I stuck to my NYE resolution and and DID NOT hook with him. We decided to be friends since he just moved here too. But of course our conversations start to cross the friend line. He decided he had to chose between me and his GF. I personally couldn't understand why. But finally he broke up with his GF and we hooked. Then a week later the poor boy got confused and thought maybe he had made the wrong decision (she emailed him and told him she wanted the cat back...boys are weird). I was upset and tried to understand why he would go back to a weird relationship (see: he hates her friends, she makes him sing little bunny foo foo to help her sleep and when he went home for labor day, she left for the weekend to go to the beach). I should have just left it there. But then he came back and was like no, I want to try this with you. So we did, made plans for my birthday to go out and have fun etc. But I got this nasty feeling (and with the help of FB stalking) that he wanted his ex back. So finally after he canceled plans on me for the second time, I just was like you know what I'm done. After doing some FB stalking recently (I love FB if you haven't noticed, especially with the new live feed and timeline...makes stalking SO much fun!) I discovered they are back together. I hope he has fun for the rest of his life having a grown child instead of a gf. Jerk.
Name: Italian Stallion
The Story: This guy, oh man, he takes the cake. Such a winner (I sincerely hope you picked up on my sarcasm there). So I meet this guy online and he comes out while I'm having drinks with a girl I went to college with. I'm nervous and start pounding drinks (see: Black out city). Make a complete fool of myself and bring him home. We hook (no banging as I am BO). SOME how this guy likes the craziness and we see each other a lot for about 2 weeks. He's nuts and I fall for every single word. Sometimes I hate being a girl because I really do fall for all the cheesy shit guys will spit out because they know we want to hear it (after this experience though I DON'T believe it anymore). Then my mom comes to visit and we can't see each other that weekend. Fine, you know we gotta do our own thing too. So I'm at a bar/restaurant with my mom and we're having drinks and dessert while we catch up. The bar is filling up and there's a guy behind her trying to order drinks. Well, I instinctively turn to look at him and discover is none other than my Italian Stallion! We have an awkward confrontation (fine), and he tells me he's out with coworkers and his gonna go back and hang with them (ok). Then I watch him leave...not with coworkers though but with another chic. So when I confront him about it he blocks me on FB and never answers me again. I'm kinda convinced that she is his GF because after stalking his pics his "ex gf" looked a lot like this chic he was leaving with. Liar liar pants on fire!!!
Name: Greek Lawyer
Our story: After my bad encounter with Italian Stallion I decided to make one last attempt on POF and I meet this very nice, put together Greek Lawyer. He's cute and nice, smart, has a good job, polite. You know the type that you would bring home to meet the parents. SEE: BORINGGGGG. That is just not my type. But I couldn't help but at least give it a chance...you know something different than the typical asshole I date? We go out on two more dates and the third one he tries to make out with me in the middle of a bar. I just COULD NOT do it. I will make out, but it can't be in the middle of the bar with everyone staring and on like a Wednesday night when no one is drunk. And to top it off it was like kissing a dead fish. My stomach just turned while recalling this incident. I'm sorry, I love making out. I cannot be with a guy that can't kiss. It's just too horrible. We part that night and he tries to set up another date. Instead of my typical ignore until the get the hint move, I'm nice since he's so nice and tell him I'm just not ready to see anyone yet. He tells me to give him a call when I am ready. I never will be ready to date a dead fish!!!
12/23/2011
I think I'll go to Boston....
So this next one. I'm kinda of at a loss on how to start it because our story doesn't begin right after Portuguese guy. It actually starts 5 years prior, when I was nothing but a child working at Really Big Insurance Company during the summers of college. This is when I first learned the power I had over the male species, particularly the older men. I was thrilled by what simply smiling could do to them. This is when I first met Boston guy. We would flirt with each while I made hundreds pointless copies at the copy machine that was nicely placed in front of his cube. As the summer went on I didn't bother dressing as professionally and my skirts got shorter (which he would later tell me he still thinks about to this day). I thought he was already married (see: picture of girlfriend and son on desk), so I knew it would go no where but we both could definitely feel that sexual tension when I gave him a hug on my last day there.
Fast forward 3 years, we start chatting on facebook after all this time. He has been married (and divorced). Conversations start as friendly banter and then turn more sexual. Note: This is when things started to get rocky with Class 5. Obviously nothing ever really happened because I was in OH and he was in RI. Eventually we just stopped talking.
Jump to March of this year, we start talking again because I've just moved back to CT and working full time for Really Big Insurance Company (guess those summers of goofing off and flirting really paid off!). He's transfered to the office in Boston so he's no longer there but we catch up and agree to maybe meet up sometime. I ditch him for Portuguese. Then here's where my back up motto comes in. After Portuguese guy disappears I right away text who we now would call Boston Guy and tell him we should meet up. He agrees. I think it's going to be a casual thing. No IT'S A DATE. He takes me to see the Ballet and gets us a hotel room for the night. Of course I had the obligation to bang, but really, I wanted to anyways I mean after all I did wait 5 years to do that! After that we spend every other weekend together and become official. It's awesome because after 5 years of lusting after each other we're FINALLY together. Things are great even though it's long distance, we gchat, skype, text whatever.
But like anything the honeymoon must end. During the summer I get fed up with my job at Really Big Insurance Company and decide that I don't want to live in CT anymore. So one day I find an apartment and announce that in a month I'm moving to Boston. Of course, it's just convenient that he just moved to a suburb of Boston and we can FINALLY have a normal non-long distance relationship. I'm looking forward to not having to get hotel rooms and drive for hours just to see him for a few. I know he's wary about the move...afraid that I'm moving for him. But seriously I was NOT. So finally my move rolls around and he's AWESOMEEEE and does all this heavy lifting for me ie. moves all my furniture. All my friends are gushing about how great a guy he is etc.
Great my ass. Four days after the big move I'm single. So I'm already stressed out about the job situation and the move. So basically he kicks me when I'm down. I know he had a lot of stuff going on too but really? He didn't even really have a real reason for the break up and I'm devastated and a hot mess at work that day (I also drove 1.5 hours to see him...to get dumped then had to drive 1.5 hours the next day back to CT for work). This is when motto comes in again...I immediately text WI guy and we plan another trip right then and there.
But the story doesn't end here dear friend. There are few indiscretions of drunk texting after the break up. Including one a little over a month ago which led to a date. I realize I was not full over him at this point but I agreed anyways. We went to see a dance performance and then out to dinner. It was like our first date all over again and I missed him. He had his hand on my knee the whole time. He flirted (he tried to come home with me but I drew the line there). And then the next day I told him I wish he would give us another chance and I never heard from him again. Asshole. He did text me on Thanksgiving and I ignored him. I'm completely cutting him out of my life and have no spoken to him since. Instead I have found other boys to occupy my time. :)
Fast forward 3 years, we start chatting on facebook after all this time. He has been married (and divorced). Conversations start as friendly banter and then turn more sexual. Note: This is when things started to get rocky with Class 5. Obviously nothing ever really happened because I was in OH and he was in RI. Eventually we just stopped talking.
Jump to March of this year, we start talking again because I've just moved back to CT and working full time for Really Big Insurance Company (guess those summers of goofing off and flirting really paid off!). He's transfered to the office in Boston so he's no longer there but we catch up and agree to maybe meet up sometime. I ditch him for Portuguese. Then here's where my back up motto comes in. After Portuguese guy disappears I right away text who we now would call Boston Guy and tell him we should meet up. He agrees. I think it's going to be a casual thing. No IT'S A DATE. He takes me to see the Ballet and gets us a hotel room for the night. Of course I had the obligation to bang, but really, I wanted to anyways I mean after all I did wait 5 years to do that! After that we spend every other weekend together and become official. It's awesome because after 5 years of lusting after each other we're FINALLY together. Things are great even though it's long distance, we gchat, skype, text whatever.
But like anything the honeymoon must end. During the summer I get fed up with my job at Really Big Insurance Company and decide that I don't want to live in CT anymore. So one day I find an apartment and announce that in a month I'm moving to Boston. Of course, it's just convenient that he just moved to a suburb of Boston and we can FINALLY have a normal non-long distance relationship. I'm looking forward to not having to get hotel rooms and drive for hours just to see him for a few. I know he's wary about the move...afraid that I'm moving for him. But seriously I was NOT. So finally my move rolls around and he's AWESOMEEEE and does all this heavy lifting for me ie. moves all my furniture. All my friends are gushing about how great a guy he is etc.
Great my ass. Four days after the big move I'm single. So I'm already stressed out about the job situation and the move. So basically he kicks me when I'm down. I know he had a lot of stuff going on too but really? He didn't even really have a real reason for the break up and I'm devastated and a hot mess at work that day (I also drove 1.5 hours to see him...to get dumped then had to drive 1.5 hours the next day back to CT for work). This is when motto comes in again...I immediately text WI guy and we plan another trip right then and there.
But the story doesn't end here dear friend. There are few indiscretions of drunk texting after the break up. Including one a little over a month ago which led to a date. I realize I was not full over him at this point but I agreed anyways. We went to see a dance performance and then out to dinner. It was like our first date all over again and I missed him. He had his hand on my knee the whole time. He flirted (he tried to come home with me but I drew the line there). And then the next day I told him I wish he would give us another chance and I never heard from him again. Asshole. He did text me on Thanksgiving and I ignored him. I'm completely cutting him out of my life and have no spoken to him since. Instead I have found other boys to occupy my time. :)
12/22/2011
The Forbidden Question
Name: The Portuguese
Our story: Another eHarmony adventure, that I originally thought had a lot of potential. We went out on the typical dinner first date and hit it off. I didn't hear from him for awhile so I began to think that maybeeee it wasn't as good as I thought it was. A couple days later I finally get a call from him (woo hoo he CALLED and not text what a winner!) and find out that he had emergency surgery on his appendix. I remember we talked for hours that night about everything. I think that's when I immediately fell for him. I know I know, it's one of my weaknesses...giving away my heart too early. We made plans to get together once he was feeling up to it.
Date number two was an all day trip to Northampton, MA. We spent the day there going into crazy little shops, eating yummy food and just goofing around. He even bought me a pack of pink mustaches and a book of really bad poetry. We were that obnoxious happy couple holding hands and skipping down streets (even though it was only a second date and we were definitely not a couple).
Side note: It kinda sucks writing about this because I really thought we would end up a happy couple. But there's no happily ever after for HeLovesMeNot.
We started hooking up, hanging out everyday, sleeping over each others places. I met his friends, he met mine. All big signs that this was GOING SOMEWHERE. Everything was great until I had to go back to Ohio for a long weekend to wrap somethings up. At this point we had being seeing each other for a little over a month. So I asked the BIG question, "Where is this going?" He said he liked what we had, didn't want it to change but wasn't ready to be in a relationship yet (he had broken up with his gf of 5 years 3 months prior to us meeting). I was fine with that answer and went off to Ohio feeling good about it. But things changed when I got back. I didn't hear from him for a bit, then he asked me out but I couldn't go because of dance. Then I just never heard from him again. All of a sudden he just fell off the face of the earth. God it sucked. It was the closest I had been to a relationship since Class 5 and it was like being stomped on all over again.
We're still FB friends and earlier in the summer he did find someone that he was ready to be in a relationship. Glad to know he's happy but it still kind of stings. But I always have my motto: Always have a back up.
Our story: Another eHarmony adventure, that I originally thought had a lot of potential. We went out on the typical dinner first date and hit it off. I didn't hear from him for awhile so I began to think that maybeeee it wasn't as good as I thought it was. A couple days later I finally get a call from him (woo hoo he CALLED and not text what a winner!) and find out that he had emergency surgery on his appendix. I remember we talked for hours that night about everything. I think that's when I immediately fell for him. I know I know, it's one of my weaknesses...giving away my heart too early. We made plans to get together once he was feeling up to it.
Date number two was an all day trip to Northampton, MA. We spent the day there going into crazy little shops, eating yummy food and just goofing around. He even bought me a pack of pink mustaches and a book of really bad poetry. We were that obnoxious happy couple holding hands and skipping down streets (even though it was only a second date and we were definitely not a couple).
Side note: It kinda sucks writing about this because I really thought we would end up a happy couple. But there's no happily ever after for HeLovesMeNot.
We started hooking up, hanging out everyday, sleeping over each others places. I met his friends, he met mine. All big signs that this was GOING SOMEWHERE. Everything was great until I had to go back to Ohio for a long weekend to wrap somethings up. At this point we had being seeing each other for a little over a month. So I asked the BIG question, "Where is this going?" He said he liked what we had, didn't want it to change but wasn't ready to be in a relationship yet (he had broken up with his gf of 5 years 3 months prior to us meeting). I was fine with that answer and went off to Ohio feeling good about it. But things changed when I got back. I didn't hear from him for a bit, then he asked me out but I couldn't go because of dance. Then I just never heard from him again. All of a sudden he just fell off the face of the earth. God it sucked. It was the closest I had been to a relationship since Class 5 and it was like being stomped on all over again.
We're still FB friends and earlier in the summer he did find someone that he was ready to be in a relationship. Glad to know he's happy but it still kind of stings. But I always have my motto: Always have a back up.
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